Deciding whether or not you want to start a family isn’t an easy choice for everyone. This is especially true nowadays, as we find the world becoming a more and more dangerous place every day.
From health concerns, to rising political tensions, to declining police support, many people are deciding not to have kids because the world is too dangerous of a place in their eyes. And while this may ring true for some, this is only one side of the story.
There are plenty of people who still decide to have kids, despite the challenges and potential dangers of the world. Considering both sides is critical if you hope to make the right choice for you and your family. Here is what you should ask yourself to determine your choice.
How Ready Are You?
All too often, parents dive in head first without really thinking about how ready they are. Sure, having a family seems nice when you see it in the movies or on a sitcom. However, it’s important to consider what having a family truly means.
Are you emotionally and physically ready to commit 100% to something outside of yourself? You are no longer the first priority in your life when you have kids, but rather your children. That is to say, if you’re doing parenting right. If you are not ready to sacrifice your own wants and needs for those of a child, then this is probably a sign that you’re not ready to have kids yet.
Being a parent is one of the most selfless things you can do. So make sure that you know what you’re in for.
How are Your Finances?
In case you didn’t get the memo, kids are expensive! Raising a child costs a lot of money, from the moment you first see the doctor, to the day you give birth. Children require all sorts of gear as infants, from swings, to strollers, to feeding materials. They also require toys and clothing, and it doesn’t stop there.
The older they get, the more things they’ll need and ask for. Are you financially stable enough to cover the costs associated with pregnancy, education, and other daily living expenses? If you feel like your finances are stable enough, then this is a great sign that you’re ready to be a parent right now.
How is Your Relationship?
Remember, even though having a child is a beautiful way to connect with your partner, it can also be very trying on your relationship. How is your current relationship dynamic? Do you think you have the same values when it comes to raising a child? How do you handle stress together?
Remember, a relationship isn’t based only on how you navigate good times together, but also on how you navigate the hard times. You don’t want to make a child with just anyone. So, before you decide to take on parenthood with somebody, make sure that they’re the right person to take on this journey with.